Bedtimes

Bedtime is such a hassle in our house. Last night I physically put my kids in their beds at 9:00 (we are still working our way back to a normal bedtime from the summer). They were up and out of their beds for the next hour and 30 minutes. This is after several spankings. Kyle was still awake at 10:42 playing in his room. John allows them to come to our bed to fall asleep and then moves them to their room. Obviously we disagree on this subject. Tonight we started a little before 8:00. Kaitlyn screams from her room that she is scared (for long periods of time both nights now). She finally fell asleep after a story and an hour. Kyle is still up playing is his room. When we picked them up from daycare they were so cranky. We planned to go eat but ended up going through a drive thru because they were acting so bad. I know it will get better with some consistency and time but it so frustrating for the time being. Can we say Benadryl?